Why Your Business Is Growing And Your Life Is Shrinking

Published June 20, 2025 by Josh Patrick
Business Advice
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Let me share something that took me years of hard knocks to figure out—something I wish someone had told me when I was starting out: Success isn’t about working harder; it’s about finding the perfect balance between what I call the “heart” and “brain” of your business. These are the two forces that drive every business—your secret sauce for sustainable growth.

Picture your business as a high-performance car. You need both the engine (the technical stuff) and the steering wheel (the people stuff) to get anywhere worth going. Miss either one, and you’re stuck in park or headed straight for a guardrail.

The heart of your business: People

What makes coming to work feel less like work is how you treat your team, your customers, and yes, even yourself. When people rave about loving where they work, or can’t stop telling their friends about your company, that’s your business heart pumping strong.

When your business has a healthy heart, your team members look forward to Monday mornings; customers become your biggest cheerleaders, spreading the word without being asked; everyone on your team can explain your mission in their sleep and believes in it; and there’s a genuine feeling of family in your workplace;

But you can’t run on heart alone. I learned this the expensive way when I started out.

The brain of your business: Making the numbers work

This is the stuff that might make your eyes glaze over—systems, processes, and yes, those dreaded spreadsheets—but it’s the secret sauce that turns passion into profit. Your business brain includes clear processes that work like a well-oiled machine; financial tracking that tells you exactly where every dollar goes; marketing systems that bring in new customers like clockwork; and operations that run smoothly even when you’re sipping cocktails on a beach.

Sarah, who runs a bakery, had recipes that could make angels weep and the kind of personality that turned first-time customers into lifelong friends. But she was working 80-hour weeks and barely keeping the lights on. Why? She was all heart and no brain.

Finding your sweet spot: A real success story

The story of John, owner of a construction company, is packed with lessons that could save you years of headaches. When John started his construction business, he was your classic “people person” contractor. His team would move heaven and earth for clients, often throwing in extras for free just to see them smile. The problem was, they were losing money on almost every project. John’s breaking point came when he realized he couldn’t make payroll without dipping into his personal savings—again. That’s when he called me.

“I don’t get it,” he said. “Everyone loves us. We do great work. Why are we always broke?” The answer was simple: he was running a charity disguised as a business. Here’s how he turned things around:

Smart tracking. He started tracking everything in a smart way. Instead of guessing about project costs, he created simple spreadsheets to track every nail, every hour, and every dollar.

Team involvement. But he didn’t let this make him cold and calculating. He turned it into a team game, getting everyone involved in finding ways to work smarter, not harder. He involved his team in creating processes, rather than forcing rigid systems on everyone.

This was genius. The team felt ownership over the new processes; they came up with better ideas than he would have alone; and implementation was smooth because everyone understood the “why.”

Saying “no” with grace. John developed scripts for kindly turning down unreasonable requests. His favorite line became, “I want to make sure we can keep delivering excellent work for you, which means we need to stick to our agreed scope.” The magic was in how he said it—with a smile and genuine care.

Not only did John’s profits go up 40 percent in the first year, but employee satisfaction also improved because everyone felt less stressed and more professional.

Finding balance in your own business

Step 1: Assess where you are. Take an honest look at your business and rate the following areas on a scale of 1 to 10, where 10 is the highest grade:

  • Team morale and engagement;
  • Customer satisfaction and loyalty;
  • Financial health and predictability;
  • Operational efficiency and consistency.

Pro tip: Don’t just guess. Ask your team and customers for real feedback. You might be surprised by what you learn.

Step 2: Pick your starting point. If your people scores are lower, start there. If your processes need work, begin with those. The key is to strengthen your weak spots while maintaining your strengths. Remember, it’s about balance, not perfection.

Step 3: Make small, smart changes. Don’t try to revolutionize everything overnight. Pick one area and make it better. Proven winners for the heart side are: start weekly one-on-one check-ins with team members; create a simple customer feedback system; implement a team recognition program; schedule regular team building activities (that people actually want to attend). Proven winners for the brain side are: document your top three most-used processes; set up basic project tracking; create templates for common tasks; implement a simple financial dashboard.

Step 4: Keep what works, fix what doesn’t. As you make changes, keep checking in with your team and customers. Are things getting better? If not, adjust your approach. The key is to stay flexible while keeping your eye on the prize.

The magic of balance: What success really looks like

When you nail this balance, amazing things start to happen. Your team stays because they’re happy and productive; customers get consistent quality plus personal attention; you make good money while making a difference; the business can run without you (hello, actual weekends!).

Here’s what this looked like for Maria, another client who runs an IT services company: Employee turnover dropped from 35 percent to 8 percent annually; customer satisfaction scores jumped from 7.2 to 9.1 out of 10; profitability increased by 62 percent in 18 months; she finally took her first two-week vacation in five years.

A 30-day action plan

Week 1

Heart side. Have a real conversation with each team member; send personal thank-you notes to your top 5 customers; write down your company’s values and share them

Brain side. Track your time for one week; document your most common customer interaction; review your pricing structure.

Week 2

Heart side. Start a weekly team huddle; create a customer feedback survey; plan a team celebration.

Brain side. Create one template for a repeated task; set up a basic project tracking system;

review your costs on your top 3 products/services.

Week 3

Heart side. Start a team recognition program; create a customer on-boarding process; define your company culture in writing.

Brain side. Document your sales process; set up basic financial tracking; create an operations manual outline.

Week 4

Heart side. Plan regular team building activities; start a customer loyalty program; create a team development plan.

Brain side. Implement quality control checks; create performance metrics; set up regular reporting.

The bottom line

Building a successful business is about finding smart ways to be profitable and personable. Keep your heart warm and your brain sharp. Every business is different, but this balance is universal. Find yours. If you feel overwhelmed, remember that every successful business owner started exactly where you are right now and they found their balance.

Josh Patrick is the founder of The Sustainable Business

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