“I Am Debra Lee: A Memoir”

Everybody’s looking at you. They’re wondering what you’re going to do next, because you often surprise them. They don’t know what you’re about to say because you’re never predictable.

So stand up, throw your shoulders back, let them watch and learn a thing or two. As in the new memoir, “I Am Debra Lee” (Legacy Lit Books) by Debra L. Lee, represent.

Back when she was still in grade school, little Debra Lee’s father decided that she would be a lawyer someday – and so she was. Though she often pushed the envelope and was her own person, it was hard to even think of disappointing the Major, a man who always admonished Lee to be a “nice girl.”

Back then, Lee “lived and breathed Black culture,” a feeling she carried through law school and into her first big job at a law firm that “treated its associates well,” and where she instinctively found a mentor who helped her in her niche. Her mentor passed to her a few choice clients, which eventually led Lee to a life-changing introduction to Bob Johnson, who was then the CEO of Black Entertainment Television, or BET.

It was a soul-searching time for Lee. Personally, she’d had a pregnancy she didn’t want, then an abortion and a marriage that failed. Professionally, the law firm she worked for was no longer a good fit. Johnson offered her a job and a title, but it involved a considerable salary cut, which was tough to take.

Still, Lee looked at the long picture and leapt at the opportunity.

The job had its downsides – eternally long hours and an overwhelming work load with no work-life balance whatsoever – but Lee was undaunted. She learned about the industry and about herself. She found her limits, sailed past them, and enjoyed the chance to befriend people whose names pepper the tabloids.

She never seriously considered reaching for the stars until she was named chief operating officer, with a public face to maintain, a reputation to uphold, and a list of things she’d never do.

And then she did one of them…

Readers who are unfamiliar with the whole story of BET and Debra Lee, prepare yourself. “I Am Debra Lee” contains a big ka-boom.

Leading up to that, though, is a treat: the inner mechanics of a media empire are told side-by-side here with the story of a long, exhausting journey and the personal sacrifices it demanded. These are not presented as a burden, however. Instead, Lee holds her tale with a steely grip with no apologies, making sure that she’s clear on the extra work it took being a Black woman in a mostly-man’s world.

There’s not a single ounce of “poor-me” in that. Rather, there’s a series of subtle lessons to accompany the outright advice that Lee scatters about.

And then there’s that ka-boom. Read about it from this first-person point of view, and you won’t be sorry. If you’re ready for an absorbing, fascinating memoir that pulls no punches, “I Am Debra Lee,” a memoir by the woman who became the chairperson of BET Networks, is absolutely worth a look.