Stop apologizing. It’s not good for you.
It is interesting to note that women tend to apologize for everything all the time. They even say they are sorry for things that are outside of their control and for things that are not worthy of an apology.
While saying you’re sorry can encourage forgiveness, restore peace and mend relationships, you should stop apologizing for every little thing that happens around you, especially when it is clearly not your fault, since this can? hurt your self-esteem. Constant apologizing can also irritate other people.
You should stop saying you’re sorry for being hurt as a result of somebody else’s action, being sensitive, turning down invitations to events you don’t want to go to and ending relationships that do not fulfill you. You should also stop apologizing for not being in the mood, asking for a raise (especially if you know you deserve it), voicing your opinion, and standing up for yourself.
So, how do you stop saying sorry all the time? Here are some tips that you may want to consider.
Keep track of how many times you use the words “I’m sorry”. Listen to yourself and pay careful attention to the circumstances surrounding the event that prompted you to say these words. Try to note how often you use these words and if the situation really merits an apology. You can only stop this habit if you know what drives it in the first place.
Recognize when and when not to be sorry. As mentioned earlier, you should not feel responsible for every little thing that happens around you so save your apologies and offer them when you really need to. Remember, it loses its value when you over-use it.
Change your vocabulary. Instead of saying you’re sorry, learn how to say ‘excuse me’ or ‘pardon’ instead. You should also learn to say ‘no’. There is no need to be sorry for turning down requests that you don’t have time to do.
Know where to draw the line. While you need to apologize if you have done something wrong or have played a role in a negative even, you should not over-apologize just to placate the situation.
Learn to love your imperfections. Nobody’s perfect so learn to accept and embrace your imperfections. You don’t have to be sorry for the way you look, your life choices, for being upset with something, and for being passionate about your belief. You don’t even have to be sorry for giving in to your food cravings.
You need to stop apologizing all the time. It wouldn’t be good for you and for those around you.