Five Ways to Build An Unforgettably Positive Presence

AttireStart with confidence

Want to captivate a room? It starts
way before you arrive. People can tell if you are insecure or when your
words don’t align with your intentions.

If you are going
somewhere, why not first try sitting quietly and becoming clear about
what you want out of your social interactions? If your intention is to
close the deal, then you have to really believe you can close it. You
have to exude confidence that your product is the best, which needs to
come from within.

If your product isn’t the best and you plan on
lying, the other party will most likely be able to call your bluff or
just get bad vibes from you. Other people can sense when you’re not
genuine, whether you realize it or not.

Visualize it

Want to own a room? Start visualizing what it means to be extremely confident and see that in your head. If your visualization is strong enough, you’ll actually feel what it’s like to be confident in your entire body. When your whole body is involved, the feeling that you just walked in a room and nailed it should radiate through you.

Most Olympic athletes, professional golfers and other high performers use visualization as a form of practice. Their visualizations are so intense, they’re almost as good as actually practicing the sport. They practice this until they’ve convinced themselves of their confidence.

Find a mentor

Surround yourself with friends who have great interpersonal skills and actually believe in themselves from the inside-out. Find authentic people. Whether you like it or not, you start picking up the traits of the people you spend time with. And remember, it’s not always the loudest guy in the room who is most confident.

Keep practicing

Want to practice having presence? Why not join Toastmasters public speaking organization? Start going to networking events every single night. Find a friend who wants to work on this, too, and recap what you learned together. Have a cocktail, but not more than one. Liquid confidence does not equal real confidence.

It might sound weird, but your behavior will only take you so far. Eighty percent of the battle is actually within yourself. Your energy needs to come from within.

Having a magnetic personality is a real, scientific concept. In physics, everything has a gravitational, magnetic field around it — including human beings. When people are magnetized toward you, they get sucked in to your gravitational pull. Imagine telling a story and having people attracted to you like a magnet. This is how humans know when someone is staring at them. If someone is projecting their energy on you, you can feel it. It’s a sense that everyone has but most people aren’t aware of.

Just listen

Next time you want to hold someone’s attention, actually focus on what this person is saying. Listen as intently as possible. Don’t think about what you are going to say next. Stop wondering what time it is or who just texted you. Put your mind in a meditative state, and make that person feel like they are the most important person in the world at that moment.

(Source: TCA)